I now only realise that I haven't been on my blog for ages, but damn have I been busy.......
So here's a couple of things that happened that I would like to put in words as to not forget these precious moments.
One Sunday morning on our way out, I was in the shower, whole family in the room. Megan with big round green eyes look up at me. Stares......stares...........stares. After asking her twice what's wrong? She points to my "private" and shouts poepoes. At first I did not understand, but very quickly realised that she's under the impression that I have shitted myself. I very quickly realised, after killing myself laughing, that a wax is now priority!!!!
So, Bianca has been in bed with me, battling to get a fever under control. Some where during the night I woke up from her coughing and then starting to through up. While I was busy cleaning and pulling off the sheets, she stands next to bed, red lips and plush cheeks, and says to me "Banca sorry". The more I explain to her that's it's ok, the more she apologises. When back in bed and laying face to face, she pouts her lips for that all loving kiss.
You know, after a long night fighting with screaming children, the one that you least want to see is the one that kept you up the most. So Rosey had one of those "night before, morning after" feelings with Caitlin. But during the day Caitlin just stole her heart all over again, and had me in tears when Rosey told me the story. And I thought how great full we are for being able to love Rosey so much and Rosey loving in return.
While Rosey was sitting on the bedroom floor, feeling sorry for being so tired, Caitlin came and sat on her lap, facing her. With two small hands around Rosey's face she says: "Caitly liefie Rosey" And gives Rosey a big kiss!! Heart breaking moments.
Sunday 18 August 2013
Friday 17 August 2012
What a week
Now, this might seem strange to some people. I was afraid to look after my own kids, not afraid of something happening, but that I might not be able to do the job properly.
Not so long ago, Rosey took a day’s leave and I was left alone to look after the kids and it was just fine. But this time it will be a whole week, whole day, day and night. Just the thought of it, tightened my stomach.
Now, that the week is over and I think back, it was soooo much fun and not as bad as I would have thought. I loved every minute of it. We had a difficult moment or two, but overall it was GREAT!!! My girls are just so amazing, what did I expect?
Of course we had some misshapen, like Bianca falling off the couch, ended up with one hell of a shiner. Caitlin did an Olympic stunt out of the cot. And something very grouse but happens everywhere, in every home, someone number 2’d in the bath and by the time I got there I do not know who did it, but Bianca loved the water. GROUSE!!!!!
Anyway, this was such a nice week, we had so much fun. I have realized how much I do miss the girls when I am at work. But also how much I love going to work. Hats off to all mothers at home looking after their own children, I salute you, but envy you a little bit as well.
Not so long ago, Rosey took a day’s leave and I was left alone to look after the kids and it was just fine. But this time it will be a whole week, whole day, day and night. Just the thought of it, tightened my stomach.
Now, that the week is over and I think back, it was soooo much fun and not as bad as I would have thought. I loved every minute of it. We had a difficult moment or two, but overall it was GREAT!!! My girls are just so amazing, what did I expect?
Of course we had some misshapen, like Bianca falling off the couch, ended up with one hell of a shiner. Caitlin did an Olympic stunt out of the cot. And something very grouse but happens everywhere, in every home, someone number 2’d in the bath and by the time I got there I do not know who did it, but Bianca loved the water. GROUSE!!!!!
Anyway, this was such a nice week, we had so much fun. I have realized how much I do miss the girls when I am at work. But also how much I love going to work. Hats off to all mothers at home looking after their own children, I salute you, but envy you a little bit as well.
Tuesday 24 July 2012
Love between sisters
So this morning, busy franticly to organize everything for my visit with my Area Manager, Rosey sends me these 2 pictures. My speed is broken and tears ran to my eyes. How special!! To witness the love between these two sisters. We are just so blessed.
Monday 16 July 2012
Stupid comments
Now people, if you think you’ve heard it all, you have heard nothing yet........................
If you are like me, that get extremely quickly irritated by dumb people asking kak questions, this one is for you.
So for this exercise, please bear in mind that Rosey is a big part of my life, we do alot together, that I am white and Rosey not. And most of these scenes are playing of in the mall. All 3 the girls are usually dressed exactly the same and usually in pink.
1. “Dis darem ‘n wit baba?” Commented an older, white lady to her husband, while walking behind Rosey. On which Rosey will reply: “Ja, die pa is wit.”
2. “Is dit ‘n 3ling?” Nee tannie, ek het die 4de eenetjie opgeeet oppad mall toe, was net so honger, kon myself nie help nie.
3. “Is dit almal dogtertjes?” Nee, ek hou daarvan om my seuntjies in pienk aan te trek?
4. All dressed the same.............”Ag, my moeder, 2 dogtertjies en ‘n seuntje!” Rerig?
Really people, enough with all the questions. Just take a deep breath and focus and you will see that this is 3, not 1, not 2, but 3 GIRLS. Please note the pink.
So for this exercise, please bear in mind that Rosey is a big part of my life, we do alot together, that I am white and Rosey not. And most of these scenes are playing of in the mall. All 3 the girls are usually dressed exactly the same and usually in pink.
1. “Dis darem ‘n wit baba?” Commented an older, white lady to her husband, while walking behind Rosey. On which Rosey will reply: “Ja, die pa is wit.”
2. “Is dit ‘n 3ling?” Nee tannie, ek het die 4de eenetjie opgeeet oppad mall toe, was net so honger, kon myself nie help nie.
3. “Is dit almal dogtertjes?” Nee, ek hou daarvan om my seuntjies in pienk aan te trek?
4. All dressed the same.............”Ag, my moeder, 2 dogtertjies en ‘n seuntje!” Rerig?
Really people, enough with all the questions. Just take a deep breath and focus and you will see that this is 3, not 1, not 2, but 3 GIRLS. Please note the pink.
Friday 13 July 2012
Romantic Love
So when one first meets your "soulmate" you are entirely, utterly in love and your whole world will just collapse without that one special person.
So keeping this in mind, I found something that I have written a long, long time ago, for my now husband, but then romatic love.
"Ek maak my oe toe, en my hart klop...........kan jy dit hoor? Ek voel jou arms om my, dit trek nader. Tyd staan stil. Ek voel opgewonde, senuweeagtig, 16. Dan kom dit bymekaar en ek kan dit nie stop nie. Ek wil nie he dit moet nie. Lippe so sag teen myne, haal my hart uit, sit dit in joune, hou dit vas, dis 'n roler coaster. Maar tog so lekker. Ek voel jou passie en sien 'n bietjie van jou siel. Ek hou daarvan."
So keeping this in mind, I found something that I have written a long, long time ago, for my now husband, but then romatic love.
"Ek maak my oe toe, en my hart klop...........kan jy dit hoor? Ek voel jou arms om my, dit trek nader. Tyd staan stil. Ek voel opgewonde, senuweeagtig, 16. Dan kom dit bymekaar en ek kan dit nie stop nie. Ek wil nie he dit moet nie. Lippe so sag teen myne, haal my hart uit, sit dit in joune, hou dit vas, dis 'n roler coaster. Maar tog so lekker. Ek voel jou passie en sien 'n bietjie van jou siel. Ek hou daarvan."
Thursday 12 July 2012
Our first year
I have to admit, at some stage I thought I wouldn’t make it. I might run away. Very quickly I found out that this is a totally normal reaction.
Not much longer after this event we found ourselves in our first hospital outing. Bianca had ear infection almost every second week and the decision were made to give her grommets. It was a very long, emotional day, but we survived. And she did better than expected. We, as parents can blow something like this right out of the water, putting much more stress upon ourselves than needed. She was such a strong girl. And this small operation changed our world.
December came with much excitement. It started with my dear God parents that came to visit all the way from Namibia. We had so much laughs. And ended in a slight chaotic first Barnard Christmas day. The girls were absolutely gorgeous! But on Christmas night we landed up with Bianca in hospital again. This time what was diagnosed as a stomach flu ended up to be bladder infection.
First week in the New Year we went to Cape Town for our first family holiday. It was great. We walked around at the V&A Waterfront, shopped and just took a break even if it was only for an hour. At this time we also realized that children will not die when they are screaming themselves to sleep. The parents on the other hand might not make it. The same month we found out a dear friend of mine is pregnant with her first baby. What a miracle! After strongly believing and being told by multiple doctors that she will never conceive a miracle was show. We also had my God Childs second Birthday, and Megan enjoyed that Barney Birthday cake so much.
Not much longer after this, I went for my first maintenance operation. I carried so much weight with my pregnancy that I had trouble with my left knee and had to go for a scope where they removed some bone. I had an extreme fear of this operation, but after going to trauma counselling, I went into theatre very relaxed and experienced the easiest operation I have ever had.
So April didn’t just start off with the great news of one of our friends, after 10 years, fell pregnant with twins. But I also started planning, planning our first Birthday party!! The cake! The party packs! The outfits! The invitations! So early in May we had the girl’s first Birthday party and it was just perfect. The girls enjoyed it. As well as the children that actually had a clue about what was happening. And once again I realised that we plan more than enjoying the day. It all just went by so quickly. So soon we will be planning number 2.
Strange how things work out. I went for my 1 year check up at the Gynagologists offices and found out that I will be able to fall pregnant naturally and maybe even have another set of triplets. I was producing so many eggs. But just 2 years prior I wasn’t producing any. Strange.
I had my first Mothers Day in Hout Bay, Cape Town, followed by a week’s holiday. I visited some friends and family. Was a very nice experience.
Cannot wait to see what will happen within the next year..............what a blessing!!!
Our year started off with Bianca getting Bronchitis within the first 2 months, which was a scary ordeal, as this was my first sick child and I was so afraid that something might happen to her. But after being at the Pediatrition and receiving a nebuliser, anti-biotics and meds we were doing well and survived our first sick child. Now, at this stage, one will think that I had a slight idea as to what might still be coming. Believe you me, you have no idea. The shit is still about to hit the fan.
I went back to work July 2012, the girls being 4 days short of 2 months, I didn’t have any other choice, we needed my full income and my assistant was busy resigning, so we needed a new, fresh face at the office and I was the one to do it. In some way, I was also relieved to be going back to work, I loved my girls from day 1, but those small babies weren’t for me. I needed some of my own space. And of course one’s afraid to leave the girls with anyone when you go to work, but Rosey love them just as much as we do.
While doing interviews, being a new parent and trying to keep head above water in my life, my husband phoned me with the most exciting news ever. Now before I tell you, I searched all avenues when the girls were born. I didn’t breast feed so I phoned Parmalat and asked what are the changes for a donation or otherwise just better prices if we’re willing to buy in bulk? Parmalat, the perfect company, very quickly told me that breast feeding is the best thing for your babies so they do not promote by donations or any other form of support, we must breast feed. Just there and then I thought: “the idiot that made that decision must be a man!!!” Every mother wants or would like to try to breast feed, but what about mothers like me or mothers that just don’t have the tools? I also phoned Government and found out they will give us subsidy if it was 4 babies, damn, missed it by 1.
“WE RECEIVED A DIAPER SPONSORSHIP OF 5 000 DIAPERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”
Heaven rained upon us. The wonderful Heather Park Spar in George was so generous with this sponsor. Do you have any idea how much diapers 5 000 are? We had diapers EVERYWHERE in our house, under the girl’s cots, in the spare room cupboards, the girl’s cupboards, everywhere. And this lasted us until about May 2012, so almost a year. I am experiencing much difficulty getting into the habit of buying diapers now. It’s like the first time.
After this excitement myself, my sister and mother decided on a girl’s night at my sister’s house. All the men were looking after the triplets. We didn’t have a major one, just some red wine and pizzas, but it’s always so nice to get out of the house and just be you, a person. Not a mother, not a wife, just me!! We slept over, which was also great.
Then we decided it was time to have a photo shoot or two. I have a very dear friend of mine that took photos of the girls when they were about 4 months old. And not much longer after that we took our first big family photo’s, my parents, my sister and her family and my new family, we had so much fun. And the girls where just gorgeous. Caitlin fell asleep in her dad’s arms while busy with the photos’. Shame!!
All wasn’t just laughs; we had one hell of a weekend, somewhere around the same time. It started with friends of my hubby that stayed with us, but had to do shows all over George and surrounding areas. While the men were being chauffeured between the different venues. Things at home started to get a bit out of hand. I think it started on Thursday night with just a bad sleeping night, but by Sunday we had 3 screaming babies. I think I was screaming the loudest. First thing Monday morning, with black circles around our eyes, we pitched up at the Paediatricians offices. It ended up that all the girls had the flu and ear infections. What a weekend! Strange how these things always happen on weekends. The vicious cycle with something like this, is that even the parents don’t get to eat or sleep. When the time presents itself to do either one of the two, all you want to do is sleep, but you need to eat to keep the energy levels up. During the rest of the year we experienced some more difficult nights, but not as bad as this weekend. All in the name of parenthood.
Support Groups – I attended some of the local mum support groups, but found it wasn’t for me. First of all most of the mums only had 1 baby, which took me somewhat out of the equation. And the multiple support groups weren’t for me either. Most of the mothers had twins and was about a year older than my girls, so I felt I couldn’t relate so much as to what they were talking about. I did however realize how lucky we were to have healthy babies from day 1.
Media & the public – when having multiples a couple of things need to be understood. The public and media might be supportive or even nosy. Either way, they want the whole scoop. How we are doing, how we are coping, etc, etc. So we did a couple of public photo shoot. The first one in the hospital, the day before we went home. The second one when we received the diaper sponsorship. And the third one was more recently for the Fathers day edition. The public on the other hand do not realize that we have more children than parents, but the parents have the same fears as a parent with only one or two babies. We also have the fear of losing a child. A child being stolen or even kidnapped. Now for some or other reason, most of the people think that it’s okay to pick your child up, without parent permission. But hey, this is just another bridge to cross. And honestly, I am battling with this one. But while doing all these pictures a very nice lady offered to do the Baby Gym sessions with us, after much deliberation we agreed and enjoyed it allot. I think it was just something nice and different to do with the family. And the girls even graduated.
I went back to work July 2012, the girls being 4 days short of 2 months, I didn’t have any other choice, we needed my full income and my assistant was busy resigning, so we needed a new, fresh face at the office and I was the one to do it. In some way, I was also relieved to be going back to work, I loved my girls from day 1, but those small babies weren’t for me. I needed some of my own space. And of course one’s afraid to leave the girls with anyone when you go to work, but Rosey love them just as much as we do.
While doing interviews, being a new parent and trying to keep head above water in my life, my husband phoned me with the most exciting news ever. Now before I tell you, I searched all avenues when the girls were born. I didn’t breast feed so I phoned Parmalat and asked what are the changes for a donation or otherwise just better prices if we’re willing to buy in bulk? Parmalat, the perfect company, very quickly told me that breast feeding is the best thing for your babies so they do not promote by donations or any other form of support, we must breast feed. Just there and then I thought: “the idiot that made that decision must be a man!!!” Every mother wants or would like to try to breast feed, but what about mothers like me or mothers that just don’t have the tools? I also phoned Government and found out they will give us subsidy if it was 4 babies, damn, missed it by 1.
“WE RECEIVED A DIAPER SPONSORSHIP OF 5 000 DIAPERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”
Heaven rained upon us. The wonderful Heather Park Spar in George was so generous with this sponsor. Do you have any idea how much diapers 5 000 are? We had diapers EVERYWHERE in our house, under the girl’s cots, in the spare room cupboards, the girl’s cupboards, everywhere. And this lasted us until about May 2012, so almost a year. I am experiencing much difficulty getting into the habit of buying diapers now. It’s like the first time.
After this excitement myself, my sister and mother decided on a girl’s night at my sister’s house. All the men were looking after the triplets. We didn’t have a major one, just some red wine and pizzas, but it’s always so nice to get out of the house and just be you, a person. Not a mother, not a wife, just me!! We slept over, which was also great.
Then we decided it was time to have a photo shoot or two. I have a very dear friend of mine that took photos of the girls when they were about 4 months old. And not much longer after that we took our first big family photo’s, my parents, my sister and her family and my new family, we had so much fun. And the girls where just gorgeous. Caitlin fell asleep in her dad’s arms while busy with the photos’. Shame!!
Support Groups – I attended some of the local mum support groups, but found it wasn’t for me. First of all most of the mums only had 1 baby, which took me somewhat out of the equation. And the multiple support groups weren’t for me either. Most of the mothers had twins and was about a year older than my girls, so I felt I couldn’t relate so much as to what they were talking about. I did however realize how lucky we were to have healthy babies from day 1.
Media & the public – when having multiples a couple of things need to be understood. The public and media might be supportive or even nosy. Either way, they want the whole scoop. How we are doing, how we are coping, etc, etc. So we did a couple of public photo shoot. The first one in the hospital, the day before we went home. The second one when we received the diaper sponsorship. And the third one was more recently for the Fathers day edition. The public on the other hand do not realize that we have more children than parents, but the parents have the same fears as a parent with only one or two babies. We also have the fear of losing a child. A child being stolen or even kidnapped. Now for some or other reason, most of the people think that it’s okay to pick your child up, without parent permission. But hey, this is just another bridge to cross. And honestly, I am battling with this one. But while doing all these pictures a very nice lady offered to do the Baby Gym sessions with us, after much deliberation we agreed and enjoyed it allot. I think it was just something nice and different to do with the family. And the girls even graduated.
So November started and I was a busy bee organising dresses and outfits for the Christening of the girls. What a very special moment. To thank God for the wonderful gifts that he has given us. And a beautiful occasion to share with friends and family.
Not much longer after this event we found ourselves in our first hospital outing. Bianca had ear infection almost every second week and the decision were made to give her grommets. It was a very long, emotional day, but we survived. And she did better than expected. We, as parents can blow something like this right out of the water, putting much more stress upon ourselves than needed. She was such a strong girl. And this small operation changed our world.
December came with much excitement. It started with my dear God parents that came to visit all the way from Namibia. We had so much laughs. And ended in a slight chaotic first Barnard Christmas day. The girls were absolutely gorgeous! But on Christmas night we landed up with Bianca in hospital again. This time what was diagnosed as a stomach flu ended up to be bladder infection.
First week in the New Year we went to Cape Town for our first family holiday. It was great. We walked around at the V&A Waterfront, shopped and just took a break even if it was only for an hour. At this time we also realized that children will not die when they are screaming themselves to sleep. The parents on the other hand might not make it. The same month we found out a dear friend of mine is pregnant with her first baby. What a miracle! After strongly believing and being told by multiple doctors that she will never conceive a miracle was show. We also had my God Childs second Birthday, and Megan enjoyed that Barney Birthday cake so much.
Not much longer after this, I went for my first maintenance operation. I carried so much weight with my pregnancy that I had trouble with my left knee and had to go for a scope where they removed some bone. I had an extreme fear of this operation, but after going to trauma counselling, I went into theatre very relaxed and experienced the easiest operation I have ever had.
So April didn’t just start off with the great news of one of our friends, after 10 years, fell pregnant with twins. But I also started planning, planning our first Birthday party!! The cake! The party packs! The outfits! The invitations! So early in May we had the girl’s first Birthday party and it was just perfect. The girls enjoyed it. As well as the children that actually had a clue about what was happening. And once again I realised that we plan more than enjoying the day. It all just went by so quickly. So soon we will be planning number 2.
Strange how things work out. I went for my 1 year check up at the Gynagologists offices and found out that I will be able to fall pregnant naturally and maybe even have another set of triplets. I was producing so many eggs. But just 2 years prior I wasn’t producing any. Strange.
I had my first Mothers Day in Hout Bay, Cape Town, followed by a week’s holiday. I visited some friends and family. Was a very nice experience.
Cannot wait to see what will happen within the next year..............what a blessing!!!
Tuesday 3 July 2012
Different Angels among us
Over the past 2 years I have heard some amazing stories. Stories that I will think of as 2012 fairy tales. At the same time thinking back about my own experience, I wonder where/when we would have drawn the line.
1. Amazing fairy tale of 2 of my friends going through the adoption process. Just within that fairy tale there are a couple of angels.
Like the adopting mother and father, I salute you! That your heart is just soooo big to accommodate a little girl that will need so much love.
And at the same time, I get tears in my eyes for the mother losing her baby and the newborn who hasn’t asked for any of this.
All of these angels strangely need one another.
These are the loving angels.
2. We heard horrific stories of multiples landing up in ICU and only going home weeks, sometimes months after they’ve been born. The parents couldn’t be able to hold the babies and give them the love that they need. Brothers and sisters being split and need to survive on their own, after being so used to being together for weeks. When I listen to these remarkable people, the doctors that assisted them, I can only think, that God has chosen these parents for a different reason.
And they are the strong angels.
3. My husband had an exceptional experience on that dreadful Monday. While waiting outside the ICU room and doctors fighting drastically inside. A man came to him and told him: “She will be fine.” My husband didn’t know this man. He didn’t work at the hospital. What seemed strange at that moment, thinking back, this was God’s right-hand-man.
The faithful and encouraging angels.
Walk with open eyes through the passages of life, because you might walk past an angel and not notice him/her.
You might not see the wings, but it surely is there.
"God's Wings
After a forest fire in Yellowstone National Park, forest rangers began their trek up a mountain to assess the inferno's damage. One ranger found a bird literally petrified in ashes, perched statuesquely on the ground at the base of a tree. Somewhat sickened by the eerie sight, he knocked over the bird with a stick. When he gently struck it, three tiny chicks scurried from under their dead mother's wings. the loving mother, keenly aware of impending disaster, had carried her offspring to the base of the tree and had gathered them under her wings, instinctively knowing that the toxic smoke would rise. She could have flown to safety but had refused to abandon her babies. Then the blaze had arrived willing to die, so those under the cover of her wings would live.
"He will cover you with His feathers, And under His wings you will find refuge."
(Psalm 91:4)
Time waits for no one. Treasure every moment you have."
1. Amazing fairy tale of 2 of my friends going through the adoption process. Just within that fairy tale there are a couple of angels.
Like the adopting mother and father, I salute you! That your heart is just soooo big to accommodate a little girl that will need so much love.
And at the same time, I get tears in my eyes for the mother losing her baby and the newborn who hasn’t asked for any of this.
All of these angels strangely need one another.
These are the loving angels.
2. We heard horrific stories of multiples landing up in ICU and only going home weeks, sometimes months after they’ve been born. The parents couldn’t be able to hold the babies and give them the love that they need. Brothers and sisters being split and need to survive on their own, after being so used to being together for weeks. When I listen to these remarkable people, the doctors that assisted them, I can only think, that God has chosen these parents for a different reason.
And they are the strong angels.
3. My husband had an exceptional experience on that dreadful Monday. While waiting outside the ICU room and doctors fighting drastically inside. A man came to him and told him: “She will be fine.” My husband didn’t know this man. He didn’t work at the hospital. What seemed strange at that moment, thinking back, this was God’s right-hand-man.
The faithful and encouraging angels.
Walk with open eyes through the passages of life, because you might walk past an angel and not notice him/her.
You might not see the wings, but it surely is there.
After a forest fire in Yellowstone National Park, forest rangers began their trek up a mountain to assess the inferno's damage. One ranger found a bird literally petrified in ashes, perched statuesquely on the ground at the base of a tree. Somewhat sickened by the eerie sight, he knocked over the bird with a stick. When he gently struck it, three tiny chicks scurried from under their dead mother's wings. the loving mother, keenly aware of impending disaster, had carried her offspring to the base of the tree and had gathered them under her wings, instinctively knowing that the toxic smoke would rise. She could have flown to safety but had refused to abandon her babies. Then the blaze had arrived willing to die, so those under the cover of her wings would live.
"He will cover you with His feathers, And under His wings you will find refuge."
(Psalm 91:4)
Time waits for no one. Treasure every moment you have."
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